So baby daddy stated that he needed ample notice if I wanted a few hours to myself even if it was when the kids were asleep and he was already home. So I informed him of my intentions for the weekend: return a kitchen pan, get my dog’s prescription, put batteries in the children’s toys and adjust the cameras around the home. He responded, “whatever, I just go with the flow.” Hah! I reminded him that he recently just flipped out because I wanted to go to a movie and he wasn’t given enough time to prepare for that. For that very reason I gave him plenty of advance notice of my weekend chore plans so he wouldn’t be frayed. He became upset stating that if I was so stressed out that I needed a few hours to myself then maybe he should get custody of the kids. He said it would be easy as they would sleep, eat fast food and watch TV all day. Hell no! My children will not have their bodies and brains rot in such a manner! This is the man who smokes in front of my kids, lets my baby play with his lighter and staple guns and is furious at me when I remove them and tell him those activities are unacceptable. I think not! I said that he gets 2 days off a week to do whatever he wants free of the family or any responsibility, but I just wanted 2 hours. He replied, “You are just a jealous woman. How about this, I won’t come home for a month and then we will see how stressed out you are!”
So there it is. No stress for a month. Granted no baths. No help with yard work or heavy lifting or taking out the trash. But also no put downs, no negativity, no ingratitude, and no more cooking speciality intensive foods for him. I feel freer and happier already.
Oh, I forgot to tell you another nugget of loveliness about this delightful man. When I was upset with him about not permitting me to have 2 hours break, he said that he understood why I was beat up as a child. The way I act is deserving of such. Wow! Who is this man!?
I swear to you, to the rest of the world he is an angel, the man I fell in love with. He told me that the reason I get this side of him is because I know him. He has no close friends, so everyone gets the surface him, and no one is around him enough to trigger anything inside of him or piss him off. At least if he agrees to visit the kids they will get to enjoy that side of him. After all, it’s that side of him that keeps lassoing me back in. He never apologizes per se, he just turns on the charm and I forget the belittling comments, the insensitivity and think that maybe it was just all my fault.
That’s where the blog comes in. I will have proof and evidence of what occurs. It’s not FB so I don’t have to concern myself with smearing his good name. It’s an anonymous blog so I can be as free as a bee in a tree singing whee! xox 😉